We’re all in this together

Contrary to popular belief, the practice of group sex, or orgies, is not reserved for dirty pornos and manly fantasies. In this day and age, it’s likely that more people have at least given group sex some consideration.

For those who have never experienced group sex, however, the question of how to go about it might be tough to answer. Like any sex, whether with one partner or 10, safety should be the top priority—pleasure, of course, running a close second.

When hosting a sexual escapade with more than one person, it’s important to first consider the personal boundaries of all parties involved. If embarking on an orgy with your partner of five years makes you slightly uncomfortable, it is best to use caution when choosing other lovers to share the experience.

Having another person in the bedroom will teach you a lot about your long-term partner. Like all sex, especially one-night stands, it is a good idea to establish boundaries ahead of time.

If someone is not the biggest fan of, say, anal sex, blow jobs or getting kinky, you should probably be informed long before the orgy happens. Nobody wants to be surprised by the vibrating 4-inch anal plug complete with spikes that another person decides to bring. Determining which batch of people will mix the best for your orgy can help to guarantee 100 percent satisfaction.

Lastly, always use some form of protective contraception. An orgy with sexually transmitted diseases and a baby on the way? As Internet meme-ster and apartment-fire-escapee Sweet Brown so eloquently puts it, “Ain’t nobody got time for that!”

Once all partners have been chosen and boundaries have been established, the next part may be the hardest (or maybe the easiest): actually going through with it. It is important for everyone involved to follow through on all agreements and not to overstep boundaries.

Couples can learn more about each other than they had ever known before by engaging in group sex. Friends going through with this probably wish to stay friends, and one-night-standers would probably like to leave their sexual adventure as healthy as they went into it.

An undeclared PSU student (who requested anonymity) enjoyed her orgy experience.

“I enjoyed the aspect of it being a new experience as well as knowing that I could trust the people I was doing it with to be comfortable with something I’d never done before,” she said. “A threesome can be a wonderful experience. I was able to be safe sexually as well as enjoy new people in sex for a night. I would recommend it because you only live once, and with the right people it will be a night you won’t forget. [Also] it will give you the chance to be more open-minded.”

Perhaps, then, open-mindedness is all it takes. When done right, a group sex can leave an unforgettable mark on a lifetime of sexual experience.