It’s been a perpetual health myth that men reach their sexual performance peak during their teen years and that woman don’t hit theirs until their mid-30s. Does this mean our species is doomed to a life of missed sexual opportunities? Will we never truly be in tune with our lovers because we’re reaching our respective prime-times decades apart? Is the best sex only had between young men and cougars?
It’s been a perpetual health myth that men reach their sexual performance peak during their teen years and that woman don’t hit theirs until their mid-30s. Does this mean our species is doomed to a life of missed sexual opportunities? Will we never truly be in tune with our lovers because we’re reaching our respective prime-times decades apart? Is the best sex only had between young men and cougars?
The answer to all of these questions is “no.”
The so-called science behind this myth originated when people misconstrued sexual facts about our hormonal prime. This “hormonal prime” refers only to when men have their highest amount of testosterone and when women have their highest level of estrogen. While both of these hormonal periods are vitally important, hormonal amount remains consistent enough through the rest of our lives such that it usually doesn’t affect our sex life more than any other influence.
But once the myth was told, it just kept running. This is likely because guys in their teens are at their highest state of freedom. Sex is new, fun and exciting, and trying new things and being crazy in bed is what occupies the majority of their waking thoughts.
Of course, as they mature and their raging hormones settle into place, this experimental phase calms down a bit. Instead of just working on busting their nut, the joy of focusing on their woman rather than violating her boundaries comes into play.
On the flipside, many young women feel more reserved at first. Losing their virginity can be physically painful, and it’s undeniable that woman have far more body issues than men. Girls usually start masturbating after boys do and, likewise, can be less in touch with their sexual needs during teen-dom.
And even if they do know fully well what will make them orgasm, the chances that their post-pubescent teenage lovers have any real clue what they’re doing is unlikely. This isn’t to knock guys for their inexperience; after all, nobody really knows what they’re doing straight out of the gate. Sex begins as a mish-mashed dance of cramming body parts into orifices and hoping that something good comes of it.
Having the best sex of your life is about being open-minded and embracing sexual freedom. Humans have so many negative hang-ups about their bodies that being naked in front of someone can be challenging enough. We nitpick at our flaws and imperfections, often ones that do not even exist or that will never be noticed by someone else.
We fill our heads with so many questions that there’s no room to just let go and get into the sex. “Does my ass jiggle too much when I do doggy style?” “Will she notice my wanger hangs too far to the right?” “Will he not like that my left tit is bigger?” “Does my O-face look like someone strangling a manatee?” There are a million opportunities for us to bring ourselves down. And all the while we’re missing the best opportunity of all: an out-of-this-world orgasm.
This sought after “sexual peak” is all up to the individual. The search could last your whole life, and some may never truly achieve it. Love assists in this process, but it certainly isn’t necessary. What is necessary is being open with yourself. Having great sex means letting go of worries and concerns and facing sexual honesty. When people are honest with themselves and their partners about what they like and can open up about what works best for them, it makes a world of difference.
Too many people are still uncomfortable with certain sexual stigmas and frivolous concerns to fully enjoy the act itself. If we’re willing to get butt naked with someone, why are we afraid to ask for what we like? It’s important to know your desires inside and out. Get in touch with yourself so that you’ll know what to do when your partner touches you.
Sexual performance and sexual enjoyment can be a life-long experience. The sooner you stop thinking and just move with your body’s wants and feelings, the sooner you can achieve that prime sexual bliss. There’s no “ideal” age to do it. It is simply the moment you get out of your own head and get into hot, awesome, toe-tingling, spine-shivering, mind-blowingly fantastic sex.
